Why should others get all the quality time? Today's moms need quality time too! In between your family’s busy schedule of activities, make mom time with your kids count.
Here are some ideas to help you and your children make the most of your time together.
Keep work and play separate
One important way to make time with your kids feel special is keeping work out of it. Think through the ways that work creeps into your home time and set boundaries for yourself during quality time with your kids. Always want to answer emails immediately? Have a boss that texts incessantly? Are you in client services? Think through these challenges so they do not end up spoiling family time. And remember, waiting to respond to those work questions until after your kids are in bed or even - wait for it - Monday morning will probably be fine. If it helps, make a rule that 50 minutes of every weekend hour will be family time and save the last 10 minutes for checking your phone.
One of the pitfalls of wasted time together is boggling through a plan until half the morning has passed. During your work week or children’s school hours, think through how you want to spend your free time. Christi Megow, of Houston, Texas, spends much of the spring devising a detailed list of activities for summer days with her kids. As Megow told BigCitySmallKid recently, “What took a lot of time up-front paid off big each day when I could figure out in minutes what adventures were available given the circumstances of that day.“ Megow happily shared her research, which is organized by indoor/outdoor, free days, ages, and other categories to make selecting the day's activity easy. Though Megow’s project only encompasses Houston activities, her concept easily translates: have a plan A, plan B and plan C so that you can bounce back when the rain rolls in, or you face overwhelming heat.
Don’t overwhelm yourself
While moms may think quality time means big activities, that does not have to be the case. Think about your child’s perspective and what is special to him/her. Does ice cream make his/her day? Would an hour of Legos be what your child craves? Quality time revolves around recharging your relationship and maintaining your special parent-child bond. This can be as simple as a walk around the neighborhood. What is more important for your child is the focus he or she receives during this time.
These magical mommy moments don't have to be planned or complicated. The most important thing about mommy and kid time is, to be like Daniella Guzman's Facebook post above, recognize the moment when you are in it!